Almost everyone is either part of a couple or wants to be. Often people seek my help in trying to find that special someone, or to make a dating relationship successful.
Once in a committed relationship, the real couples work begins.
Some relationships are rescue jobs, where one partner “fixes’ the other. Some involve a stuck pattern in which the more partner A under-functions, the more B over-functions. Some clients need help reclaiming power which has been usurped by a controlling partner.
Others are struggling with whether to stay or go, and what effect either decision will have on their children.
In-laws and children increase pressure upon the couple. Money, sickness, jealousy, infidelity, secrets–these and more are the issues I work with in couples coaching.
I can help even if only one partner is willing to seek coaching. If one person changes, the other partner cannot stay the same.
Change is always possible, even if all you change is your own attitude.
Testimonial
I had to relocate and rebuild a business over 2,000 miles from our home. As we had children finishing high school, my wife and children didn’t accompany me. This went on for 2 trying years which had an effect on our marital and family relationship even though we were able to travel to each other a few times a month. Due to the ability and affability of Dr. Candida Abrahamson, she was able telephonically (no Zoom those days) to save our marriage. But Dr. Abrahamson was able to do more, in that what we learned in those sessions helped make us want to be better persons. – H (FLA)
Relevant articles from my blog
Living With–Or, Commonly, Without–A Commitment Phobe–Part I
Rule #1 for a Commitment Phobe: Always remember the back door.
Wendy* worried, early in the relationship, because she wasn’t Jewish.
A lovely woman originally from Oregon, Wendy had spent time in therapy working on relationship issues, and learning how to pick better than she had done in her 20s, when it came to dating.
Getting Taken to the Cleaners, the Poorhouse, or Worse–to Jail
As much as your friends and family would love to protect you, it’s really your own job to avoid being betrayed financially, as you’re the one who has all the clues. Be your own detective regarding financially improper or criminal behavior.
But how do you read those clues, and what should you be looking for? My guess is that my readers have a number of ideas, and I’d love to hear them. I offer suggestions I’ve gleaned from my clients who have learned the hard way.