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Blended Families–Lessons 8-13

Lessons 1-7 are in the the post below, Blended Families-Lessons 107. 8. Avoid areas staked out by the child’s own parent. If your step-son says, “Dad says he’ll teach me to sail,” don’t run out to the nearest shipyard. 9. Sometimes it can take until adulthood for the step-children to realize the caring and special […]

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Privacy, Secrets and Shame– When Kids Have the Right to Know

If a secret affects children, those children have the right to know. This does not mean that you can use children to unburden yourself, like my patient did with her eldest daughter and her husband’s affair. That will yield only damage; your child is not your father-confessor. But the same reason we use now to excuse not telling children […]

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How to Survive Your Family Vacation: March Madness Meets Family Systems

I come from a tiny family. It was small to begin with, and deaths of young members shrunk it even more.  I’m not used to the boisterous hugging, fighting, yelling, acting out at large family gatherings. My friend, Howard, however, is an expert on intense marathon family “vacations.”  When his 2 parents, 6 siblings, 3 […]

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