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Bullying’s Victims: Profile of Vulnerable Children

A story of injustice mixed with justice hit the news yesterday. A Florida sheriff arrested 2 girls (ages 14 and 12) for cyberbullying. Their victim, 12-year-old Rebecca Sedwick, jumped to her death from an abandoned concrete factory.  The Facebook entry from her torturer: “Yes, IK I bullied her Rebecca and she killed herself and IDGAF” […]

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Getting Taken to the Cleaners, the Poorhouse, or Worse–to Jail

As much as your friends and family would love to protect you, it’s really your own job to avoid being betrayed financially, as you’re the one who has all the clues. Be your own detective regarding financially improper or criminal behavior. But how do you read those clues, and what should you be looking for? […]

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“A Room Of Her Own:” The Saga of the Blended Family Continues

According to Virginia Woolf, for a woman to succeed in her ambition to write fiction, she “must have money and a room of her own.” Granted your little one may not be attempting to compose the Great American [or in this case, I suppose, British] novel, and her allowance may suffice for now–but if you […]

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Changing the Ground Rules: Losing a Career

Before I leave the topic of issues to consider when you’re thinking of leaving your marriage, I wanted to bring up a few situations that make the decision to stay or go vastly more complicated. What happens in a marriage, and are you obligated to stay, when the very ground rules of that marriage have been […]

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Rescue Marriages

It probably seemed pretty clear how the first problem marriage structure, of the over- and under-functioning spouses, could lead to marital stress–although  many of these couples stay together for the long-term. The second ‘problem marriage,’ in my view, though, is that of the rescue marriage, and oftentimes it’s harder for people to see the problem with […]

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National Cancer Survivors Day (June 2)

So today is National Cancer Survivors Day. This special day prompts 2 questions: 1. First–What does it mean to be a cancer survivor? 2. And, then, what’s the value of a special day? We understand what it means to be a survivor of a frightening or horrific public event: the Moore tornado, Hurricane Sandy, the […]

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Cancer Survivors–the Good, the Bad, and the Neutral

There are only three possible outcomes after a major life event: things get worse, things get better, or things stay the same.  Once you’ve had cancer, it’s not too likely that your life will ever be the same.  OK, maybe with a tiny skin cancer.  But I mean the big, scary CANCER, where your existence […]

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Ah, yes, I remember it…WRONG!

I have for years treasured a memory of something precious shared with my father, who died when I was 10.  At age seven he told me I was old enough to read “Gone With The Wind,”  I can clearly picture him in our home library; he lovingly pulled the book from a lower shelf and handed it to […]

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Taking a Vacation as a Blended Family

Anne Robert’s guest post add important information to my multiple earlier posts on challenges for blended families. Taking a Vacation as a Blended Family Blending families is never easy, and many couples (and their children) need support and mediation in order to overcome their vision of what the ‘perfect family’ looks like and accept the reality […]

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The Long-Term Consequences Of Childhood Bullying

An important post from guest writer Anne Roberts.   Bullying is bad. It’s horrendous to experience, it’s soul-destroying, and it smashes children’s personalities to pieces just as they’re hitting a crucial stage of their development. Some, however, are still of the opinion that bullying ‘builds character’. Well, it’s time to put that idea down. Science states […]

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Meditation on nothing–letter to psychiatrist. Holiday guest post by Rhona Finkel

Dear Dr. Jaffe, Have you ever noticed there can be a lot of “nothing” lying around? I mean, just take my first niece. She went to meet my soon-to-be-sister-in-law who [quite unfortunately] came with her own babies—two cats. Named after two delicacies at Walker Brothers pancake house, they were Apple Pancake (may he rest in […]

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